Story is a word that means chronicle, narrative, legend, fable etc. But Story Itself, well that’s different. How do I know? My clients taught me. What my clients continue to teach is that each voice is a powerful tool. And, that each human being has a unique memory voice that does not change over time. It just rests in the ether of silence; that is, unless someone inquires.
The ITSELF cadence of a STORY looks something like this…
- At the beginning of an interview client voices are quiet, unsure and falter between thoughts. But once they trust their individual cadence they never waiver.
- The pace of how a client breathes between words discloses their unique speaking voice.
- The easiest disclosures are about what they love, who they love and why they love.
- How they love is revealed in a pause between words or a subtle deep breath.
- I feel their disappointments that rest in the tone of their voice and the pace of their telling.
- Their choice of word informs me that they are happy, afraid, joyous or sorrowful.
- When quieting their speaking voice they are about to reveal a secret.
- To laugh aloud at their own words means they just learned something about themselves.
- Regrets are never given freely; but, a long-held breath or a deep sigh says it all.
- Hope, on the other hand, is expressed fully and genuinely.
- I’ve learned to listen closely to inflections and word choice. These reveal intention.
- During transcription there are deep sighs, long pauses and even dead space. Sometimes I can garner a meaning; but most often the space is for their remembering.
- All clients say: “…my life was just so ordinary.” But, their intonation in speaking these words begins, maybe for the first time ever, to cause them to wonder what ordinary really means.